Q: I recently met a good friend’s partner for the first time – they had been dating for six or seven months but have only just become ‘official’. I’m happy for her but first impressions weren’t good. He seemed to talk over her frequently and the dynamic seemed ‘off’. I know my friend wants this to work, and maybe her partner’s behaviour was just nerves on meeting new people, but I also got the impression he messed her around a bit in the past. I’m not sure what to do – should I say something and risk hurting her feelings, and damaging our relationship? Or should I pretend that I enjoyed meeting him?

Cautious of Cornwall