The other day my partner asked me to email him a file he had saved on his computer at home. As I was looking for it I came across a folder of porn videos, which took me by surprise. I had never asked my partner whether he watched porn, but I just assumed he didn’t as the industry is so degrading and exploitative. He knows I hate the way it turns sex into a product and promotes unrealistic expectations. I had always thought he was a feminist, now I’m not so sure. Am I overreacting?
No, you’re not overreacting. Long-term relationships are always going to have moments like this, where circumstance or discovery casts someone in a new light – a light that won’t always be flattering. The question is: what’s next?
